This blog is my experience trying to understand how I impose my own needs, my own identity, onto her so that I can, with some clarity, become (I hope) a better parent. As it is an effort make peace with her horizontal identity, it is also, unapologetically, an effort to make peace with myself.
Framing a story is an act of will. When we build a narrative (and I believe we each have a multitude of correct narratives), we are implicitly building a story of cause and effect for our lives.
"I Don’t Know How You Do It!" It’s one of the most alienating comments I know. People think they sound compassionate when the say it, but they do not. They think they are conveying admiration, but they are not.